Husband moving out

[Lendog]

Started divorce, on stage one ..I'm buying him out so I can stay in the house all agreed,do I give him his share of the house now or wait till divorce is all sorted then pay him ,also he's sort of moving out if he does I'll pay half my share of the mortgage til it's in my name but he wants still to enter the house but I'm paying all the house bills ??

You wait until you have had all assets laid out in Form E - savings, pensions etc and a final settlement is determined. You should have 3 valuations of your house and take the average of those 3 as the market price. As the house will still be part of the assets he should contribute to anything that needs maintenance eg boiler maintenance but yes day to day expenses should be yours. Technically he should still be able to enter the house but perhaps try to come to some agreement with him that he doesn't.

Wait until it’s all approved by a judge. Don’t pay him anything until then

But if he comes home using the water to have a bath ,wash his cars use the electricity etc while I'm paying for them he doesn't see this as a problem ..

Is he using this as a way of intimidating you? Will he really do this for you think?

Why is he coming home for a bath if he’s living elsewhere?

I think he's moving into a caravan onsite,I've got wait until April divorce 1st stage done god help me ..

You both need to agree what moving out means. If he is paying half the mortgage he may see himself as subsidising your living costs and therefore entitled to use the house. You need to be clear with each other on what this means. If you want to be independent and stop him coming in then cover your living costs.

But can I get his name off the mortgage before the divorce? I have one all ready to go

This can all be agreed in mediation then get a solicitor to do a financial consent order. Don't finalise your divorce until the consent order is in place. I imagine him still using the house will get messy and confrontational. He doesn't get to be paid out then still use the asset you have paid him for.

We're doing an online divorce,can I do a consent order before the 20 weeks ?

I believe you can do a consent order at any stage. I also believe a solicitor needs to sign it off although you can draft your own and then it is presented at court along with the divorce paperwork. My solicitor told me the judges go through them to ensure no one is being taken advantage of financially. You can half an hour's free legal advice to clarify these points properly though. Good luck

Thank you ..we have agreed for me to pay him the share of his equity of the house and for me to take on the rest of the mortgage payments, I'm not bothered about his pension or cars he has ,I just want a home for myself ,I've always paid the household bills but now he's asking for half the mortgage as and when he moves out ,but then wants to come and go in the house🙈

No solicitor or judge will sign off such a bonkers arrangement. Have you considered mediation so you can agree it properly then get it all drafted in to a consent order? Divorce mediators are very good at handling all this sort of thing and ensure it's all fair and sensible. Once it's on a court order then it's final.