What are you proud of this year?

[CleanShirt]

Since we're all in the club that nobody wanted to join I thought it might be helpful to focus on some positives!

Mine are -

I've made myself a home from scratch
I haven't died without xh - even though I thought I would
I went on a solo holiday
I passed a professional exam weeks after xh left

That gives me hope, those are some great achievements. I'm only just starting out in the separation club and am full of fear.

I'm a year on the 4th Jan - my god it's a steep learning curve and I'm still nowhere near 100% but things DO get better!

I’m proud of myself for not giving in to his silence this time round.

I'm proud of myself for finding and getting counselling to sort my head out.

I’m proud of myself for getting some financial independence and taking a stand on location monitoring/home cameras.

I’m proud of myself for finally leaving ‘just because I wasn’t happy’. Took some convincing to get myself to the place that that felt reason enough.

I’m proud of myself for finding a beautiful temporary home for me and my daughter so we could get away.

I’m proud of myself for finding a more permanent home and making it homely and ours on a relatively tight budget.

I’m proud of myself for finally telling him to stop messaging me and that I will be applying for a divorce.

It’s been a hell of a year!

This is a great question. My personal growth has gone through the roof since divorce. I moved out late last year so this has been a year of transformation.

Like you, I'm proud of creating a home for myself from scratch. I've learned so many new things, from using a power drill and a pressure washer, to basic car maintenance like checking tyre pressure. I feel like I should already have been able to do these things but it's been really empowering to figure them out even at this stage of life. I really want to take a DIY course now!

I'm proud that I've managed to adjust to a new financial reality. It's been a big adjustment but I feel mostly in control of my costs and spending and that's a huge thing.

I'm proud that I've been an excellent pet owner. My dogs are extremely well cared for and exercised and loved and that's not been easy on my own. My plants are thriving too. Basically, I'm proud that I've taken care of things in my life even when it felt like everything was falling apart.

I'm proud that I've been able to start to build a new life alone and to feel ok about that.

This has been a tough year for me in lots of ways but the work I've put in means that I've got much stronger foundations for next year. I'm actually looking forward to 2025.

I’m proud that I’ve hung on and got what I deserved from the divorce settlement, rather than settling for the pittance that he was going to ‘generously’ give me. It’s been hard and at times I wanted to give up but it looks like I’ve found somewhere that will just be me mine and the kids and I’m looking forward to making it our home as we want it to be.

Well done to all of you.

I got married in January and my marriage ended quite recently due to the discovery of an OW. I'm proud of myself for turfing him out, for resting, not quitting when things felt too much. I'm proud of myself for being an honest and decent person that will leave this marriage in 2025 and create a lovely new home for me and my DC.

Everyone of these achievements is amazing!

I'm proud that I grew, birthed and raised my baby single handed whilst looking after my SEN child and kept a roof over all our heads even whilst on maternity leave. That I've been there 100% for my children even though I thought I would crumble under the enormity of everything. That I can finally be myself again and that I can finally wish the best for him, OW and their impending baby ☺️

I'm proud that I finally had enough of his emotional abuse and chose to end marriage in March 2024.

I'm proud that I am financially independent and we have a roof over our heads and food in our cupboards.

I'm proud that Christmas 2024 was not any different to any previous Christmases (other than the Ex wasn't here) because it was always me who created the magic.

I'm proud I've done everything myself including the much needed "blue" jobs that he never got around to in 10 years.

I'm proud that our home is peaceful and warm. And for the first time in a long time I'm hopeful for the future.

I'm proud that I did it. After years of being unhappy, I ended it.

I'm proud that I bought, and furnished, a beautiful home for my son & I, paid for with my own money.

I'm proud that I hung pictures up on my own, and fixed a problem with a curtain pole.

I'm proud that my son gets to see a happy mum.

And I'm proud that my ex & I have done it in a way that is friendly, (mostly) easy and that we regularly do things as a 3, so that my son can enjoy time with his parents, at the same time.