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Divorce/separation

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Worried about regretting leaving

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LaceyLou42 · 29/12/2024 20:35

Been unhappy for 2.5 years, together 15. Husband has been either emotionally abusive …either that or the horribleness was caused by him being mentally unwell (he says he’s mentally ill but this is undiagnosed). He has said he is going to get help but hasn’t done so yet. I feel like I care about him but not sure I love him anymore. I don’t feel sexually attracted to him anymore and haven’t for a long time. Other than this we have a comfortable life…small child… lovely home… financially secure… nice in laws. He tells me I’ll be throwing away so much. I know deep down he loves me but I just feel like there’s no spark and I’ll just be settling for what it is for fear of the unknown. Im in my early 30s. I’m bored… crave time to myself as I can’t enjoy time spent with him… and feel like I could do better but the grass isn’t always greener.

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Hoppy34 · 29/12/2024 21:55

I am in the same position. Together for 15 years, married for 10 with 2 children.

I think I’ve known for the last 5 years we should probably separate but I just never feel confident enough to take the leap.

Neither of us are bad people, I just don’t think we are compatible anymore and with that other issues have leaked in.

The unknown scares the life out of me and although I know I’ll be fine alone, it isn’t what I want forever. I can see him moving on quite quickly 🙄

Question people always ask me is how do I see my life once the kids have grown up and moved out - do we have a strong enough relationship to survive when it’s just us for the next 30 years?

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