Opinions would be greatly appreciated from those who have been in a similar position.
I have been with my partner for 13 years, we have three children the oldest is 6 and we own a home together. Over the last few years he has become more and more narcissistic, his family live nearby who are toxic and constantly have issues with eachother. His family see our kids once a month, yet see their other grandkids daily. We have asked for more support but it's not happening. I grew up in a close knit, loving supportive family and this is very important to me and for my kids.
Over the years I have asked him to look into moving nearer to my family who are an hour away as they are much more supportive and involved in our children's lives. Our kids would grow up with extended family around them, completely the opposite to where we are now. We could be more flexible with jobs because family would help with childcare rather than working opposite shifts as we do now. Our kids would get quality time with family. The area is also nicer than where we live now.
He has repeatedly told me I know where the door is, he will never move away from his family and if I go then I go on my own with the kids. At first I was shocked at his reaction, and I have stayed because I'm naturally worried about being a single mum of three, uprooting the kids and changing my oldest school. However I know the benefits would outweigh the negatives.
We are very unhappy together, the relationship is toxic and I'm not allowed to discuss my feelings. I feel like a shell of the person I used to be and now I just remain quiet for the sake of not starting an argument, which is not like me at all.
I'm looking into the first steps I need to make, and I'm applying for schools for the kids.
I don't think a court battle would be an issue as he has openly said for me to leave with the kids multiple times, however I'm not naive to think that he won't drag his heels when we do eventually leave.
I would love to hear from anyone who has been in a similar situation, and how/ if it worked out.