How do you actually do it?

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How do you actually ask for a separation/divorce? Divorce feels a bit like the ultimate goal at the moment but how do you even go about asking to separate? I’ve no idea how to actually go about practically making it happen as well as getting my husband to understand.

I’m pretty sure he’s going to play the victim. There’s no dramatic backstory, no cheating on my part though I suspect he’s not been entirely faithful (emotional rather than physical) I’ve just had enough of doing everything for our family and running myself into the ground whilst he watches on and I’m choosing to put myself first and show DC that this isn’t how a partnership works

You can divorce for any reason/no fault if you are in England or Wales. If not, you need to specify your country.

Tell him you are not happy and you have noticed he isn't so perhaps it's time you parted ways. Keep emotions and feelings out of it so no accusations or blame.

Go onto the Government website to find out the process. Divorce is really split into three parts. The legal paperwork, the finances and children. The first costs you under £600 on the gov website and you can do it yourself, the other two usually require mediation and/or solicitors and require you both to be amicable to stop it getting expensive or long winded.

Make sure you have copies of his or joint finances even if it's pension company or savings account names rather than amounts. Keep yours and the children's passports and birth certificates safe.

https://www.gov.uk/divorce