First Christmas after separation - best one in a long time!

[finallyaskedfordivorce]

Just wanted to post a shout out to anyone else who's having their first Christmas post separation and loving it 😂

So so many times over the past few days where I've just had to pause and think "thank fuck I've finally got rid of him!"

Christmas has been so much less stressful without him. Bliss 😊

Well done lovely and congratulations!

Thank you. There's been so many posts these last few days about feckless dh's and I thought it might be nice to show a bit of hope out the other side.

It's obviously not without its stresses, dealing with kids stuff and financial stuff and narcissistic ex dh stuff, but for me, the overwhelming feeling of relief is still shining through!

I agree it's been a shocking year for threads on man babies x

Same here @finallyaskedfordivorce, it’s been the most lovely, relaxed Christmas, and like all the other days in the year, life is a lot easier without him in it 👌

Love this thread op

Ive spent this christmas reassuring myself that next year be so much better

We are separated bur living under same roof

Same here, so happy for you! 3rd Christmas post divorce and so relaxed, no Christmas row looming, no new years eve crying alone at midnight at the thought of facing another year. No slaving for hours in the kitchen while he watched the kids open presents he had no idea what was inside as hadn't bought or wrapped a single one and then receiving my one box of supermarket chocolates. No uncomfortable visits from his family while he refused to go see mine. It's amazing what you can only see once you're out of it. Onwards and upwards.

Love this post! This time last year we had just split a week before Christmas, still living together and it was awful. I was so scared for the future.

A year on and every single day I thank myself for biting the bullet and ending that hell. It has been hard, there will still be hard bits, but day to day is soooooo much better.

I chose gifts I thought the kids would love, I didn't have to worry about him being controlling or starting an argument when the attention wasn't focused on him. I had the best birthday the other week, I actually felt Christmassy. Stark contrast to last year.

To anyone considering it, bite the bullet and do it. But just get lots of good advice first so you are set up in to do the best for you.