Seeing my ex h even for a short term sends me into a spiral of pain

[2025willbemytime]

I divorced him. Can't wait to move and never speak to him again. But fuck he's hurt me. How do you not let it get to you? And yes, if I could just decide not to care I would. I care nothing for him. Happy if he died to be frank. But doesn't stop the pain of what's gone before and the fact he's being a terrible father. Add in how he's seeing someone new already and prioritising her and I hate him even more. He'll never undertake or care the pain he's caused and that is hard for me.

It takes time.

One thing that really helped me was the realisation that he doesn't give a shiny shit. If you hold on to this, the only person who is being affected, is you. Keep focusing on rebuilding your life and being a good mum, your babies need you more than ever.

Thank you. I feel like it's steps forward then back. I won't have to see him for a while and then when I move never again but it's shocked me how affected I've been by the little interaction I had yesterday. I said literally three words, stayed 1.75hr then one word. Yet today I've been very flat, teary, sad. I did drink a bottle of wine which is unlike me afterwards so might be that.

It’s just time. Step by step. Not easy but you’ll get there

I hope so. I feel like today has been bad and I've gone backwards.