My partner and I have recently split we have a son together who's 8 months and he has taken on the sole father role for my 3 year old daughter too.
He has only in the last month asked for his son over night again after months for not. Of course I'm the controlling one because I am not saying yes to two nights though which now his mum is guilt tripping me for. They are both telling me that court will give him 50/50
Firstly not her she's not his biologically.
And secondly If I'm primary carer for my son would they do this at 8 months?
I wrote up a parenting plan he asked for
It gives him three nights a fortnight. One Saturday night all day sat and sun. The following week Friday night all day sat. The option of him having sunday after the Friday is there if he wants it and talked bout by the Wednesday before hand. Then 2/3 days a week after work with the following week Wednesday night sleep over. I also added any days he wants off or appointments or plans for either of us sure just let each other know. Same with holiday let us know a week minimum ahead. He works 5 days a week. But me saying no to two nights till he's alreast one, am I being unreasonable. It causes my so much anxiety which is why I'm trying to make up for it in all ways and never excluding my daughter