I fear I am about to be dragged through the legal system over contact arrangements with my baby’s dad. Brief backstory, together for 15years, he decided to move out of our home then months later got back together and we planned a baby together.. skip forward I went through pregnancy alone, was told to have an abortion by him and ended up getting police involved after he started terrorising my building trying to gain entry demanding information about a baby scan (after telling me to have an abortion..). Child services and police told me to go no contact with this man and we didn’t speak till later in my pregnancy. He has taken up drinking and smoking, has shown up at 4am drunk, has been having issues at work where he has been violent and has accumulated 000s in debt.
he lives with his parents and he demands to see baby whenever suits him and rarely thinks about baby’s needs. He shows up when convenient for him and throws a tantrum if I refuse one of his demands (eg I didn’t allow him to take baby to his friends house so he refused to spend any time with his son at all). Currently he is 5mo and I let him know I’d be staying at my mothers on Xmas day so I’m happy to drop baby to him for a few hours on Boxing Day. He has now gotten jealous and is demanding to take the baby for overnight stays.
he has been threatening legal action for months but I’m scared he is serious now and I just can’t cope anymore. Baby and I co sleep as he still breastfeeds sometimes. He doesn’t have a single toy for the baby at his home never mind a cot or the space to take him overnight. More so.. I am not comfortable with my infant child being away from me overnight and especially with him.
please help… what are the chances court would grant him overnight stays? Should I look at getting a solicitor? I don’t know what to do and I’m very upset