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LostConfused37 · 09/12/2024 20:57

Hi everyone, I know I'm going to get the he's no good just leave comments but I just need a support network right now and I don't really have one. I'm currently 4 months pregnant with my 3rd baby (same dad) he's always liked a few drinks but has been known to take recreational drugs. I don't tolerate them and don't really get on when he's had a drink as we argue which is no good. I've threw him out a few times and eventually just asked him to get his own place. He started staying at his friend's but spent some nights through the week at mine and we were getting on but with a few bumps in the road. I've recently found out he had a much younger lass at his friend's house where he's staying, absolutely rinsing him for money and I believe cocaine. He missed my gender scan the next day saying he forgot. Sunday comes and he's done with being thrown out and now says he doesn't want this relationship anymore. I'm understandably upset and hurt. I don't know how I'm going to cope loosing him and being pregnant on my own. The future just doesn't seem bearable. It was only last week we were snuggled up picking baby names and a week later everything's torn apart. I don't knownwhat to do

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Itsacoldcoldwinter · 09/12/2024 22:43

I'm so sorry OP. It's awful for you.
But you have done the right thing for yourself and your DCs and your unborn baby.
Do you have any family or friends to support you?

Tosca23 · 11/12/2024 07:34

Sorry op that you are going through this. Being 4 months pregnant I’m sure you just want love and support right now. I’m so sorry your partner doesn’t sound capable of giving you what you need. It does sound like your partners issues with alcohol and drugs is why you threw him out? Is that why you had enough in the first place?

imfae · 14/12/2024 00:14

I am so sorry OP . I think you have made the right decision for you and your family .
It does seem that he wasn't consistently there for you and your family . He seemed to be prioritising his own needs and it must have been difficult to find out about the OW .

I think you know that you couldn't depend on him and were probably almost a single parent in any event . At least you now know where you stand . I know it will be hard being pregnant and not being with the baby's father . This is not what any of us want for our children . Sadly if is what it is and you just have to prioritise you and your family .

Please reach out to family and friends for support if you can . This is not on you.

Take care FlowersFlowersFlowers.

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