Gaslighting

[pumpkincorn]

My husband left me a few weeks ago before he left he said he would still help me financially for as long as he could. We have a 10year boy this month he hasn't put money into the joint account for the bills. I've messaged him twice he wanted to know how much money I needed I just said the same as you've been paying for the last 12years no more or less. I sent the second message asking for the same and he's ignored me today.

In my message today I've asked him to collect the last of his stuff and to clear out the garage and return the keys for the house and garage as he doesn't want to live here anymore and moved out and took 98% of his stuff.

I can only imagine he's got a new bit of fluff already as he cheated on me may of last year and I tried forgiving him and he just made my life miserable for the last 18months and now he's gone.
Why say he's going to help if he's lying he's a narcissist and I think it's just another lie

Yeah same boat here. Nothing to add apart from he's a pig.
Also it costs so much just to apply for a divorce it makes it harder to even start that!
Have you applied for CMS? Please do that because its a very long wait at the moment x

I think it's best you start the CMS process. Once the ball is rolling then you can politely let him know. They usually react badly.
It's common for them to say one thing and then behave completely differently post split so you have to be wise to this. You can't expect anything voluntarily. It's safer for everyone to use the proper legal channels.
Sorry you're going through all this. Things will get better

I don't understand who this person is and where my person went or if the man I loved ever existed.

Yes it is devastating when you begin to see their true colours. Be careful with communication - bare minimum and don't over share stuff he'll use against you is my main advice x