I’ve been married for 10 years. I never dreamt it would turn out this way. The first year flew by, everything as I expected. But then slowly he started changing, he would often go on weekend trips and holidays as often as he could. I did question it, “my friends give me happiness.. have a laugh with them”. It seemed he didn’t really care how I felt. I was there to fill a purpose, he wanted children because his dad was 70. He even said you love your kids more than your wife.
I found out he cheated on me, it would have been 5 years. Anyways I gave it another go. But nothing has changed, the last time we had a sexual relations was 4 years ago. I’ve tried talking to him but he doesn’t seem to communicate. I’m 38 now, my body clock is ticking, feel so stuck in this situation. I managed to save in the last three years, but in the first 5 years. He told me to transfer my wage into our joint account which I naively did, he’s well off. He said it was in my benefit, taxed money should be saved. He used to transfer the money.
I really trusted this man, thought he wanted a loving marriage. It’s so strange for a man not to want sex. He withdrew long ago even before 4 years ago. He never seemed interested in wanting any emotional connection.
i don’t understand how anybody can treat some body like this. Any male perspective view. I’m tried to do everything he wanted, do the things to keep him happy, but nothing never seems good enough or I’m never doing enough.
any thoughts?