Im at a cross roads, I struggle to communicate well, I'm not very empathetic, and my husbands love language is empathy or mind reading. He has asked me so many times to change (be more empathetic, acknowledge his feelings, have difficult conversations) but I'm struggling and now he feels like a teacher and sees the same mistakes over and over again from me.
i feel like I try a be nicer, more empathetic, understanding, until life gets busy and I forget. But we have 3 Children (9,7,4) 1 with type 1 diabetes, I'm a type 1 diabetic, and I have a stressful job with long hours, so often I forget to try and he becomes the bottom of my priority list. I do the majority of the childcare as he works early, and households cooking and cleaning, and sorting of financial stuff. I am resentful of taking out financial loans for him, and that he doesnt have energy after his physically strenuous job whilst I work from home but just keep going with everything. I have no libido which is his latest bugbare and I'm contemplating separation. Our arguments are about that fact that I've done something wrong again, and I panic, getting defensive and tieing myself in knots verbally, he feels like he is training me for someone else as I don't put anything into practice for him. I'm at a loss, but I'm so worried about our children.