Ex-wife still sleeping in partners bed

[blacktaz]

Hi all, I’ve been in a relationship with a guy who (I believe!) separated from his wife several years ago. However they were slow to tell their near adult children and the house is only now on the market. I was under the impression the ex wife was sleeping in a spare room, but when went there today it looked like her things were on the side of the bed they share. I feel really uncomfortable about this, and although I know this happened in the early days of their ‘separation’ it feels like a lot now. I don’t think anything sexual is likely to be happening as it seems it wasn’t really when they were still married but right now I just feel like I want to walk away. Am I overreacting? I don’t want to throw a good relationship away but equally…this doesn’t feel great.

Does she know you were there and in her bedroom?

Why did you assume she would be the one in the spare room?

Yeah I’m sure my STBXH probably told his affair partner of four years we were “separated” or “live like brother and sister” too. He didn’t tell me though. We were still having weekly sex.

Because he’s always said that was the case. Yes she knows I come round sometimes but I don’t stay over as I feel uncomfortable with it all.

Ugh that’s grim I’m so sorry 😔

You sure they're not still together?

Also, why were you in their bedroom?

Have you ever spoken to her?

Where was she when you were in the bedroom? 😱

They’re most likely still shagging.

She’s buying another house and they have xmas separately. Short of contacting her myself and asking that’s what I have to go on. I was taking something up there that he’s looking after for me.

Ew

Run 🚩 🚩🚩🚩🚩

Out. I’d just gone upstairs to take something up there, nothing more untoward!

Hmmm. I wouldn't trust that she was aware of you tbh.
She might think they're separating homes but staying together legally etc.
Have you seen evidence (eg legal papers) that the process of divorce has even commenced?

Briefly, yes.

No, I haven’t.

So he presented it as ‘slow to tell the adult children’ because they were protecting them from being upset?
how many years have they taken to put house on market?
how many years have they still been sleeping together all along ?
Run like the wind
Don't bother getting involved in arguments where he talks through his arse.

You will find yourself far happier single when free of this man who is not worthy of your love or respect. Close the door to this fucked up man who doesn’t deserve your time, so that you can open the door to someone worthy of your affection