Overstepping mil urgent

[kalsgirl237]

Hi guys, I'm soon to be divorced and my soon to be EX MIL turns up at my
Home every day to see my
Kids. I don't say anything but I do live with my parents who let her in. She's not nasty to me when she comes but I just want to get away from them. It's incredibly frustrating that she turns up constantly. The days the picks my child up from school she takes her back to her house and drops her too me at 8pm on a school night which I've constantly told her to drop her early, secondly the days I pick my child from school she turns up at my parents home here aswell
I'm so so sick of it and I don't know what to do

Decide when and where suits you.
If she comes at other times, tell your DPs not to let her in, but to let you speak to her at the door.
Knock the collecting from school on the head if she won't listen to you about drop off being too late.

Can you not pick DD up from her house at an earlier time? Obviously I’ve no idea if you have transport.
Maybe suggest a schedule for the days she visits your parents?

Can you pick dd up from hers on the evening she has her? Then you're in control and can get dd to bed at a sensible time. Other wise could you make alternative arrangements for her to see dd instead of on a school night - take her to the park on Saturday mornings or something?

YOU are in charge. She is your daughter, you dec ide what happens.

Re her turning up at the door, you're going to have to get your parents to 'man up'. There are all sorts of excuses they can use at the door to turn her away - we're just going out, it's not convenient, we're expecting friends; the list goes on and is only curbed by your imagination. If they keep it up beyond 3 times they need to be told baldly that they have to see dd in your ex's time and please leave us alone.