Can someone help me please or give some advice? I am 38 and since my early 20 have been in the relationship with an older man. We now have a 3 year old child. I come from an abusive and neglectful childhood and have no contact with my parents. I also suffer from ADHD which in total helps to explain how I got myself in this situation. Our relationship had never been good and in hindsight I was a vulnerable person due to having no family support, childhood trauma, anxiety, depression and undiagnosed ADHD. Now with therapy, I have grown and been able to deal with many issues that I have been suffering from for the most of my life and got some confidence that I never had. But logistically, I am still unable to leave this relationship because a disastrous decision to bring a child into it. My pregnancy was unplanned and I did not want to go through with it but he talked me through to keep it. He is very controlling and I have let him to manipulate me. I love my child but it would have been so much easier to leave child free. Now I have an okish job, earning £50k but this is in London and the nursery costs are crippling me and is the reason why I feel helpless to leave. When i think about renting plus nursery etc, I am worried how I will cope. I could potentially look for a better paying job but I worry about job security. My job is in the public sector and I will never get fired unless I do something terrible. To get paid more, I would have to go to the private sector and look for a promotion which I dont know that I will be able to get and perform well with my ADHD which although well controlled has some aspects i.e. depression etc. I just feel helpless and trapped and not able to take any action. I dont have any practical support and nowhere to go. How do people leave on this kind of salary in London if they have no family to help?