I left my husband summer 2023 moving into my own place, after living in a world of 90% arguments, years of no sex and sleeping in diff rooms on and off. He was upset. But still came over daily and tried to be there all the time (he never did this previously and obv realised this was now over. This was his attempt at reconciliation ' trying to hug me. I let him crash on my couch sometimes. Onr day he went out got drunk, slept on my couch. Too drunk to drive. I had no issues. Following week i wrnt out got back at 4am. He wrnt balistic saying hes not a nanny. Walked out, wouldnt answer my calls trxts etc for a week and didnt see his kids (we havr 3). A week later he called my teen and said "tell ur mother im comkng up to bath ur brother" - i said no need i can do it. This was followed by "tell ur mother im coming up to chanhe the litter". Again i said nope. I was so angry that he had just ghosted me an entire week. I never told him he cudnt come up i pretyy much said i didnt need the help for him trying to wiggle in.
Since that day i have not seen him or spoken to him. He doesnt respond to any texts i send and has said i will not communicate with u. After a year and a half. I give up. His email is not updated on the system at schook and since he doesnt bother his a** to communicate, i dont bother with updating hin on school events.
He even said to my children in feb "i dont know why i bother sending ur mothr money" (kids live wit me i pay all expensrs) and then stopped sending anything. So in currently paying for 4ppl including me and 2 cats.
He sees my 6 yr old son daily, he calls my girls (12&18) and tells thm to bring their brother outside. Thats thr only time he sees girls.
I live overseas and havent lived in uk for 20yrs. I own a property there and since i havr no friends here and no coparenting am considering returning to nortbern ireland (uni fees a factor too).
I have no idea after leaving everything here, what i should expect to pay in bills and cost of livint every month. I have bn ghosted by him in all areas!