Joint custody 50/50

[Dru85]

Long time lurker, first time poster.
I'm after some advice. My ex and I were together 10 years. Have 2 kids, never married. We split several months ago. We agreed he would have the kids 3 days a week.
I recently applied for child maintenance.
He is not happy. He has just asked for 50/50 split with the kids, child maintenance to stop and for me to give him half child benefit or he will take me to court for full custody and will move the kids to a different school. The child maintenance payments don't start until next year.
I have always bought 99% of all the stuff needed for the our kids, toys, clothes, books,school stuff, days out, holidays etc.
I have no problem with him spending time with our kids and even sharing everything 50/50 but he won't share 50/50 in the costs and wants me to pay him.
I guess I'm asking where do I stand and am I right in asking that everything is shared equally.
Any help is appreciated

He can apply for full residency but he won’t get it so I wouldn’t worry
he can’t also just move schools without your agreement so don’t worry about that either

personally I’d just ignore him and continue with your claim

Empty threats as 50:50 would mean him having to provide them with everything on his time - clothes, school lunch, childcare etc.

He can't move school without your permission.

If you feel very threatened you could get a prohibitive steps order.

I second this!

Hes just bullying you. Limit your contact with him.

Without giving too much detail away he only has been asked to pay £30 a month (as he hasn't declared self employment earnings) i only applied for child maintenance as last resort. I don't even want the money. I can and have been providing for our children since they were born with little help.
I can't get set days every week (such a small team) but I can have set days every 3 weeks. On occasion i have had to have child care between 4-8 hours every 2 weeks to guarantee he has our kids 3 days in a row. He is not happy about this but he is ok to have childcare when he has his days.
Says I can't cope and I'm a bad mum for working. I just want a rant
My kids are my top priority
We have always have disagreements when it came to our kids. He wants cleared plates, no sugar
I stand by eat what you can manage, if your full your full. Balanced diet, a bit of everything.
Just a stressed mum who wants the best for her kids

The problem is how would you make him pay 50:50?

If he works and doesn't declare his earnings report to HMRC. Why should he not be paying tax and NI when the rest of us do?

You can also appeal CMS and state his lifestyle doesn't match his declared income.

Him complaining about your parenting you ignore it's irrelevant. Start using a court approved parenting app so his threats and complaints are court admissible.