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Divorce/separation

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Trying the best to avoid divorce - what to do?

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Jaylden · 19/11/2024 11:23

Hey together

We as a couple have had a rough couple months and the relationship has unfortunately deteriorated since the birth of our toddler. Constant arguing over random things have made a productive relationship and team effort almost impossible. Whatever I say, my spouse takes the opposite view. I tend to be the more rational parent (for instance, no or little screen time) and have to say No to our child more often, while my spouse says Yes to everything.

It is fair to say that without our child we would be separated. Now I have personally never come across a divorce in which the children didn’t suffer sooner or later, hence I am hesitant to get divorced for our child’s sake. It would break my heart to see our little one suffer from a break-up.

I am writing this as I just don’t know how to solve the situation. It’s hard to talk like an adult to my spouse without it ending in yet another argument. I truly hope that someone is so kind to have some advice.

Thank you

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olderbutwiser · 19/11/2024 11:31

Counselling?

Happy parents who are still together is ideal, but happy separated parents is probably better than miserable together parents.

Jaylden · 19/11/2024 11:54

olderbutwiser · 19/11/2024 11:31

Counselling?

Happy parents who are still together is ideal, but happy separated parents is probably better than miserable together parents.

Thanks, all divorces that I have seen among friends and family have had a terrible impact on the children. I know it may not represent a large sample, but that’s why I’m trying my best.

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LemonTT · 19/11/2024 12:15

Studies show it is function not form that promotes well being in children. A toxic marriage will be bad for them and a toxic divorce will be bad for them. And at the end of the day it’s not something you can control. If your spouse wants to leave you they can. Sounds like maybe that would be a good option for the spouse and children.

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