I’m soon leaving my STBXH who has been emotionally abusive. During the divorce this escalated to kicking over furniture, blocking me from leaving rooms, shouting, swearing, looming over me. I went to the police really to log it because I felt it might escalate more & then it would be useful to have had contact with them already so they knew the background. They asked if he’s been like that with DS (8) & he hasn’t ever hit him (or me) but he has been rough with him, pushed him, shouted & sworn at him. I didn’t want this referred to social care because I fear that a police officer or social services talking to him would escalate things more, but it has been & now I have to talk to a social worker this week. I am in a panic for 2 reasons & can’t think straight. First I am panicking social services will turn up here & talk to STBXH just when I am trying to leave & I am scared of his response. But I am also now panicking because after I leave I won’t be here; he wants 50/50. And just having a social worker leave a message has made me terrified maybe I have been minimising it all along & need to protect DS more. But how do I do that when I am not here?