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Divorce/separation

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Devastated by separation through my own fault

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HopelessDreamer · 12/11/2024 07:40

Last night I came clean to my partner about my gambling addiction. It had gotten out of hand and was eating me up and I had to tell him. I knew he would be angry and not react well but I'm devastated now he has finished with me and told me he is 100% done he can't trust me anymore and wants nothing more to do with me.

We have two young children 3yr and 1yr. I don't know what to do I'm so angry with myself and upset. I've taken all of the steps to deal with my addiction, using gamstop to ban any gambling apps or sites from my phone and told my banks not to authorise any gambling transactions.

I totally understand how angry he is and why, and I deserve it but I just feel so helpess now and upset for our kids etc. I know it's all my fault but I want him to understand it is a serious addiction and it's not the real me I'm not a bad person.

I'm hoping over time we may be able to reconcile but I don't know, am I stupid to think this? We have to live together he is saying he is going to move out if he can bug said for me to go this evening when he gets in and come back in the morning before he leaves for work. This won't be sustainable forever more surely. I'm a mess I don't know what to do I just want to fix this.

OP posts:
AnneLovesGilbert · 12/11/2024 09:35

Why did you tell him? Did you also have to tell him you’ve lost family money?

pinkdelight · 12/11/2024 11:55

DeepRoseFish · 12/11/2024 09:20

She has 2 very young children. Let’s think about what’s best for them shall we!

OP wasn't thinking about that in the grip of the addiction that caused this. Addicts don't think about what's best for other people, including their children. Until the OP has done the time and work to really address her problem for good, I don't think she can really play the 'put the children first' card and mean it.

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