Scared of uprooting/emotional abusive ex

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Seeking advice please. I’m in the process of putting together a plan to leave emotional abusive husband. I’m on the list for a council property/HA property and once I’m offered a place I will be able to leave. I’m petrified 😦

I basically have no control over where I am offered a property, it will still be in my city but the actual area could be anywhere. In my current area I do have a sense of community as my children went to the local primary school and my oldest is in the comp.

It’s a frightening thought setting up from scratch in a brand new area where we know no one. Our little village has lots of memories of my children growing up and it’s been their home since they were babies.

In the grand scheme of things the furthest we would go is around 6/7 miles away, so not too bad but we won’t know anyone. I worry we will be isolated.

Does anyone have any experience with moving out of the family home and starting from scratch?

My husband does not know of my plans yet and sometimes I have moments of panic thinking, am I actually doing this??

Thank you for reading if you’ve got this far!

Just sending you some best wishes x

No experience specifically in moving away but I have just planned and moved out and understand the panic (see my thread on reassurance needed!). I can't believe I've done this at time...it has been a long time coming and to have actually left seems surreal. The relief has been enormous but I've also had to deal with a lot of contact from my stbex which is taking its toll as much as I try to ignore it.

You don't need to fit into a new community straightaway, give yourself a chance to get settled. I assume the friends you've made aren't going to cut you off just because you've moved away so don't isolate yourself from those either.

Get settled in, you'll need time to decompress.
As it's social housing you could always look into doing a house swap if you're not in your preferred area.
One step at a time.
Good luck ❤️