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Why am I not upset about my husband leaving

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Mamawollf · 04/11/2024 22:27

I married my husband three years ago and have been together 18 years but it has been a very emotionally and verbally abusive relationship and recently physically. He practically abandoned me last year when I was pregnant and was going to walk out on me when I was seven months pregnant. My mental health took a massive dip and I was admitted into hospital for suicidal ideation. I felt floored and that my world had fallen apart. Since then I have been receiving help and we agreed to try again, but he disclosed to me that he had been texting a client of his but wouldn't tell me who. I eventually found out when I searched through his phone. I was devastated and had begged him to tell me for a month and he refused hence why I searched through his phone. I found out she was a childminder. I decided to give him another chance but six months on I just can't get over the betrayal. I asked him to leave today and being the narcissist he is after he asked me to employ her to look after our children.

For some reason I'm not cut up about it and don't understand why? My two daughters are delighted that we are splitting up, can someone explain why we feel this way??

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olderbutwiser · 04/11/2024 22:33

Because it’s the best thing you’ve done for yourself and your children. You should be celebrating that an abusive cheater has gone. Change the locks pdq and crack open the bubbly.

cestlavielife · 04/11/2024 22:34

Well done. You should feel happy and relieved

outandunder · 05/11/2024 00:03

Because he's horrible?
Because when women are murdered it's usually their partners and there is a history of abuse?
It's not hard to imagine why you would feel instantly better knowing you are getting away from him.
Congratulations!!!

Lavender14 · 05/11/2024 00:08

"I asked him to leave today and being the narcissist he is after he asked me to employ her to look after our children."

If he wasn't such an arsehole that would actually be laughable. Wtaf.

Op you're not sad because you're just done... you've already put everything you had into trying to make this work and you've nothing left to give to someone who isn't meeting you halfway and who doesn't deserve you. You know you've made the right decision by yourself and your kids and parenting without him will be hard in some ways maybe, but probably easier overall. There's much better days ahead for you.

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