Exactly that. Marriage was over the minute my youngest was born- he chose his moment to check out of the relationship and has been stalling doing anything about it ever since. In the time we've been together, I used my small inheritance for renovation works, etc. as he was very good at convincing me that he was willing to give it "another go". I've spent a fortune on the upkeep of the house and still do. He's a high earner and has been unemployed for the last 6 months which has meant I've been doing two jobs to bring in enough money to cover nursery fees for the children, mortgage, bills and credit card payments. He was offered a job yesterday and all of a sudden this morning, he spilled something and refused to clean it up "because it's not my house". This is what he does to punish me on a regular basis. In the same breath, he said he'll take me to court to take it all away from me. He doesn't care that the children are watching and get upset by his outbursts. I don't know what to do anymore. I have felt suicidal before but won't act on anything as I can't trust him with the children- they won't get a look in past his phone and social commitments.