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Divorce/separation

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Seperation, 8 year old involved

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HollyJenni · 27/10/2024 17:15

Hi!
Myself and my OH split approx 1 month ago.
I ended things due to text messsges he sent me on a night out, last year he was messaging a family friend and as he works away 4 nights a week, the relationship suffered and we grew apart.
im staying with my parents and then returning home when he is away. That’s the only thing I can afford to do right now.
my daughter seems ok with it, obviously she is missing is being together but he cannot accept that it’s over. He keeps messaging me saying how bad a person I am for doing this, how can I do it, why am I breaking the family up for petty reasons etc.
i have tried explaining that I feel we have grown apart, trust issues, lack of affection etc but he just won’t accept it.
How do I handle this situation?
I have support from friends and family but my daughter has just been picked up and the text he has sent says “I don’t know how you can watch us drive away, look at what you are doing to our little family”

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trailblazer42 · 27/10/2024 18:34

I can’t offer guidance but just wanted to say that I am in the same place. Have been trying to split for nine months and he’s never once accepted my feelings might be valid. I moved out on Friday and after twenty four hours of anger, he’s now back down the running the family path. I’m just not engaging with it, which is why I moved out. The last couple of times we’ve had the conversations he’s worn me down.

HollyJenni · 27/10/2024 21:13

I’ve screen shotted everything he has been sending me as I just don’t know what he is capable of. He has just told me that he is taking our daughter to his sisters house for Christmas Day. Because apparently, he calls the shots as I chose to end the relationship

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HollyJenni · 27/10/2024 21:15

And literally, I’m here if you need to talk! It’s horrible but we have to remind ourselves our reasons for ending things.

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