Child maintenance

[36londonmum]

Hi - I wondered if anyone could point me in the right direction.

My ex is paying child maintenance as according to the calculator, I have 2 children with me 11 days out 14 because he cannot handle more. It has meant I cannot really do much work, and during the holidays I’m at a bit of a loss… he also says I should have a higher paying job as I used to do when we were together which I lost due to crazy circumstances before we split. My question is he is refusing to pay half of childcare costs in the holidays, is this his obligation? How can I be expected to work and do all the childcare on my own?

OP - you need a lawyer, respectfully, you don’t seem to have much idea at all of how it works.

You may get a larger split of the equity, a mesher order (where you still sell the home, but not until the children reach 18) is rare; giving you the house outright is as good as no chance. You’ll be expected to maximise your income to support the DC when they are with you.

It’s also unlikely he’d get no contact. 50/50 is often the starting point these days, if he wants to go for it. This would result in little to no CMS payments.

Please see a lawyer asap.

All this will be sorted out in the financial order that should be drawn up before the divorce is finalised - assuming you are married. If you're not married a lot depends on how the house is owned. www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/if-you-were-living-together/what-happens-to-your-home-when-you-separate/

There are several different options to help with childcare costs. https://www.gov.uk/childcare-calculator should be helpful.

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/debt-and-money/cost-of-living/get-help-with-costs-if-you-have-a-child/ might give you some more ideas.

The best thing is not tie yourselves up in knots — You should have seen a solicitor .. There is no such thing as none marital assets .. Assuming you have been together at least 9 years with age of oldest child..

You can assume he isn’t going to help you . I can tell you abusive men get regular contact with their children so you have no hope based on what you have said..

look at UC it may help .,

but don’t tie yourself up in the fairness and unfairness of it all .

What is non-marital money? If you mean his family have money, that won’t come into it.

Things that he owns in his name, but was given.