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Divorce/separation

Here you'll find divorce help and support from other Mners. For legal advice, you may find Advice Now guides useful.

I need to divorce and can’t afford it

9 replies

Rachelsthorns · 18/10/2024 10:39

My husband was arrested for sexual abuse offences, including taking images of me while I slept. He’s been charged.
I have to divorce him but I lost my job when he was arrested and I’m still on UC.

How can I afford to do this? Solicitor costs are well out of my reach. I can’t even afford an initial meeting.

OP posts:
hughiedoesntfight · 18/10/2024 10:40

You may qualify for legal aid as there’s been abuse

fuckyourpronouns · 18/10/2024 10:41

I'm not sure OP so I googled it and this is what came up - in pic

I need to divorce and can’t afford it
Sillysausage76 · 18/10/2024 10:41

Agree try legal aid

Moier · 18/10/2024 10:43

My daughter exactly in same position.
Your Husband sounds like hers.
She got a support worker from victims support at the police.
She got a free divorce via a solicitor.
Was on UC.
Two years on and we are still waiting the court date.
Good luck.

Rachelsthorns · 18/10/2024 10:44

Thank you. I hadn’t realised I could try for legal aid so I’ll look into that. My head is all over the place!

I have a daughter under 16 so I don’t think I can do the DIY. I need to make sure she’s protected and there’s a court order in place for her at the moment.

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Rachelsthorns · 18/10/2024 10:47

I do have a support worker through the police. I’m only just in a position to think about divorce, it’s just all so appalling.
Thank you, everyone! I will try all those suggestions.

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Shoemadlady · 18/10/2024 10:52

You can apply for your divorce online. It's 500

Rachelsthorns · 18/10/2024 16:48

I don't have £500 - I'm in debt already. He's not only wrecked our lives, he's wrecked my business.
I know I'm going to recover, but it's going to take time. I can't stay married to him, though. Not after what he's done. I've forgiven a lot, but not this.

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Lavender14 · 18/10/2024 16:52

Hi op I'm going through similar. Uc is a gateway benefit to legal aid. Some services will offer free legal consultations but personally I'd be inclined to find a decent solicitor and do the initial consultation if you can in any way. Because of his unreasonable behaviour which lead to our separation my stbxh will have to pay for my divorceand associated costs. The only part I will need to pay for will be the financial settlement but the costs from that will come from the sale of the house etc. So even though there's an initial up front cost (I think I paid £60 for an hours initial consultation) your solicitor will be able to advise you on what you're entitled to and what help is available to you.

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