Ex's family

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There's already a thread about my break up, 18 years together, 3 children and he goes off with another woman.
The children haven't seen his family for almost 2 years, when we were together he also didn't speak to his mum or grandparents for 2 years too. He's not saying he wants the kids to have a relationship with them. I know you're all going to say I dont have a choice but my children are only 6 4 and 2. They don't even know his family. Anything I can do to protect them?

Unless they are criminals of a certain nature no your helpless I'm afraid

I thought that may be the case. Just not fair on the kids. They're still getting used to their dad not being here and now they have to meet new family. Even ex didn't want anything to do with them before he needed a place to live after cheating on me!

Regardless of what he's done, your children deserve to know both sides of their family. Unless they are a danger in anyway to them, I would say let them.

It's usually the father's side that lose out on children when a relationship fails and it's not the kids or family's fault. I have several nieces who I don't know at all because of relationships breaking down and the mums refused to let our side have anything to do with them. The older nieces believe we don't care but that has never been the case.

I'm not sure what the situation is exactly as you say your ex isn't saying he wants your kids to have a relationship with his family. If the kids live with you it is up to you to decide if you want to facilitate any contact. Nothing you can do when they are with their dad as he can take them to see his family if he chooses. I know you say you didn't see his family for 2 years, but was that down to him being difficult or them being disinterested or unpleasant. If they are reasonable people then you could give them a chance, but keep it low key. Bump in to them at the park or a soft play for half an hour so it isn't too overwhelming. However, grandparents who haven't had contact for over 2 years are unlikely to get anywhere pushing for access rights.