Hello, I have been married 14 years and broke up with my husband in 2023 I didn't bother putting in for a divorce because we'll I just couldn't afford it and because I've moved on it wasn't exactly at the top of my priority list and I didn't want to upset my kids, however this morning I put in for it and now people in my life seem to have a problem with it even though these are the same people that told me to leave him for years because he was abusive ( emotionally,mentally and financially) and just generally treat me like crap. I don't really have the funds but I have applied for help towards the fees so hoping I will be accepted for that. After speaking to my counsellor she suggested that I will never be able to heal from what happened in the relationship and learn to trust my current partner until I break free completely from my marriage by getting the divorce and I should not allow other people to make me feel bad or guilty because all I was doing was putting off the inevitable. For years no one thought I'd actually leave him now I have and have gone on to a new relationship my friends especially feels like I should have either just stayed with the abusive husband or stayed single.
Should I have delayed the divorce another year until I'm on my feet properly ?
We do not have any financial attachments ie home etc
Sorry its a long message lol