Just saw OW

[CleanShirt]

Work in the same industry as stbxh and OW. She was in my building this morning.

Small. Blonde. Young. The exact opposite of me.

It's my wedding anniversary next week and will be getting the final order any day now. Already been struggling and this has tipped me a little bit.

You can do this!

You are further down the road than I am coming up to 6 years since my ex left us!
These reminders of what should or could have been are very painful in the moment but you know they will pass - chin up and keep on keeping on.

I can't imagine that's easy! Aren't they always younger and blonde.. 😆 Focus on yourself, she's got the prize alright.. a cheating ex husband who can't be trusted. It won't end well.

She may be small, blonde and young, but assuming she is complicit, then she is also a pretty horrible human being, so being the opposite of her is a good thing. Head high OP.

Don't flog yourself. Be glad you no longer live with a cheat that has no respect for you.

Yes but you are free if the cheating swine! Celebrate that.

She’s got someone else’s husband and will always worry about him cheating on her.

He'll be cheating on her soon, so you will both have something in common soon.

One day she will be blonde, older and possibly not as small. She’ll be looking over her shoulder all the time, knowing what he’s like.

you on the other hand… you’re nearly free.

Did you get a good look at her face? There’s an old adage…the OW is always less attractive. Still It’s painful indeed no matter what ow looks like And as pp said…small blonde and young now and that will change with time. It seems to me as I get older it takes a real maturity in a man to age with his partner rather than exchange his partner. Take physical care of your appearance..groom dress take care of your skin. Present your best self TO YOURSELF everyday and recognize a man is not a solution to any problem. In my experience she will be gone in two years anyways. In time you will see and feel that who he is with is inconsequential but how you feel (away from him) is precious.

She is:
'Small. Blonde. Young' AND stuck with a cheater. 'The exact opposite of me.'

Thanks all. I needed this. I'm not looking my best at the moment (stress of buying / doing a place up means I've been living on takeaways for a few weeks) and am generally just quite sad about things as I head towards divorce, so the timing was awful.

I KNOW I'm better off without someone who did this to me (and has still never admitted it!). And sadly I do think she's a bit of a victim (who knew that he was married).