My ex is using my child's health to control me

[Mumrree]

My ex has never been in volved in my children's health. He's never taken them to the doctor's (not because he was in work, because he didn't really work but he never wanted to be involved) and when we separated he was invited to be involved but again didn't want to.
We are now in court over contact which I have never denied him and now all of a sudden he has booked a private doctors appointment which he took my young child to when he knew I was away and couldn't attend. He didn't give the private doctor all my child's medication, he didn't give the Dr my child own GPS details and he gave my child's residency address as his own so neither myself or the GP would be given a copy of this dr's report. The Dr gave my child very strong medication and has now request blood tests for allergies my child is only 4.
Initially when I found out who and where this Dr was based I contact his secretary and discovered my ex was administrating the medication incorrectly. I filled in all the gaps regarding our child's medication from his own GP because I was concerned of any negative reactions with my child other medication. I also requested a copy of the report and I gave them my child's GP details.
Initially the medication worked however the symptoms are now returning. The private Dr has requested blood tests which my ex again has booked knowing I can't be there.
I have contacted my GPS surgery as they told me a female, apparently that was me called requesting information. I explained I think someone is impersonating me as I haven't requested any information and I want a password putting in place going forward as I don't know who this female is. However the GPS surgery are not interested, told me they can't put a password on the account and do not seem to be taking any responsibility for this breach.
I do have a domestic abuse advisor which I was put in touch with via the police due to cohesive control by my ex however he is clever in what he does by just keeping it under the level so the hand's of the police are tied. Also the court have advised a parenting app due to the nature of the controlling, patronising and lengthy text messages I received from my ex.
I am at my wit's end and now I feel that as the controlling ties my ex had over me are being cut he is now starting to use my child health as a way of control. I will be grateful if the private doctor can get to the bottom of the health worries. I couldn't afford to pay private (I have been left with all the household debts from relationship and my ex doesn't pay me any money for the children) but I am concerned that this is turning into yet another form of control my ex will hold over me. I am mentally exhausted and I just don't know where it when this will end

It sounds very distressing but sadly I don’t think the court will care much about your experience but they will care if he is putting your child at risk by his inability to engage and co-parent with you ie. not having complete medical information for the private doctor. Perhaps emphasise this in court.

Thanks for taking the time to reply

If he can afford a private GP he can afford CMS.

Apparently not he contacted the CMS himself early on. When he does work he works for a family member and has told the CMS he earns the equivalent of £70 per week. They advised £7 per month for both children together sending me just over the threshold for working tax credits so I declined it. He keeps a car on the road has all £200 and £300 track suits and trainers, he smokes and he has a prolific cannabis habit

I assume you have PR?
You need to formally report to your GP surgery and get them to take this seriously. Tell them you want this reported through the toolkit as a data breach as they have unlawfully given PII to an unknown third party. This is an obligation of theirs as a GP, if necessary google DPO (data protection officer) for your surgery and report it to them. They should be outlining measure how they will prevent this from happening in the future.
For the private GP, I'd write to them formally and say that you do not give your consent for this treatment and you have PR and primary residence and if they continue then you will report them to the CQC as they have given medication to your child without knowing the full picture. Again ,this has serious consequences for them.

Make sure you flag up to school as well that dad is being a bit wierd and they are not to make any address changes etc without your consent

Thanks for the response and advise. At the moment I have written to the GP using their complaints procedure and I'm awaiting a response. My self and my DA advisor have been in for a meeting with the school and they seem fully on board. I have heard today that the education department have been in touch with the school and have advised that if dad turns up smelling of weed or the children do they are to contact me and with hold the children from him.
At the moment I am corresponding with the private doctor's secretary but not really getting anywhere so again thanks for the advise I will use that now.