To change surname back or not?

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Can any of you lovely ladies give me advice on whether to revert back to my maiden name please?

I know initially it’ll be a pain to write to all the institutions to let them know but once I’ve done that are there any other repercussions that I might not have thought of?

When the divorce went through I decided to keep my married name but as times gone on I’ve wondered about changing back.

The things that have made me think not are

• not wanting a different name to my DC
• not wanting the hassle of changing it back
• being a Miss again (although I could be a Ms I suppose)
• people at work not knowing it’s me (but probably not a big issue although there were a few issues initially with systems when I changed to my married name)

Advice pls

When do your passport and driving licence expire? I would wait until they are close so you don’t have to pay unnecessarily.

some people struggle to leave the country with children who don’t have the same surname as them.

when you apply for new jobs you may need to provide additional identification documents.

I wouldnt bother. Stay the same as the children. Dont change to miss, you're not a child. Stick with mrs or ms.

It’s not as hard as you think, I did my bank first as that was easiest then the others one by one. So glad I did!

I’ve never been stopped leaving the country with the DC, and the school, doctors etc don’t bat an eyelid that we have different names.

You don't 'struggle to leave the country' you just have to have a photo of their birth certificates on your phone!

I changed mine back right away. And I’m a Ms now. Easy enough to do, and really glad I did.

I didn't revert and stayed a Mrs. Just couldn't be arsed with the hassle. Also easier for kids at school etc. I have been stopped taking my daughters friend away with us one time so can see how that happens with different surnames sometimes. I'm Due to get remarried soon. Kids older. Will change to new Mrs surname and start my new chapter then.

I changed mine prior to getting divorced and changed to Miss, I did it online through a deed poll change of name company, I signed the certificate - got a witness then got 10 certified copies. It was really easy, once I changed my passport it was easy - I showed that and a certified copy my deed poll change of name. I felt like I had loads to do - but I still have 4 left. I always preferred my own name.

Change it, get a clean break. If you think about identifying yourself with a family, is it your ex's family you want to identify yourself with?

I changed mine and am glad I did. I just didn't want to be Mrs ex H anymore. My children are late teens so I'm not worried about being stopped at the airport because they can tell them I'm their mum. Also you can get a letter from your ex stating he is happy for you to take them out of the country.