Won't tell ex he's moved on

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Been together 1.5yrs. He is separated not yet divorced (pending...). He refuses to tell kids and ex about me and new relationship until divorce final. I'm finding this frustrating.

Yes they're definitely separated, nothing going on. It's volatile between them and kids unsettled. She unofficially knows about me but when asked he tells her it's nothing to do with her.

Thoughts? Please be kind...

I think that sounds reasonable. What is your issue with waiting until he's divorced to tell his children about you?

Thank you for your reply. Just natural to want to move forward after length of relationship. No 'issue' as such but just posting for opinions.

Your edit to include that the kids are unsettled and it's a volatile situation, makes me think it's even more sensible to keep it under his hat until he feels it's the right time. It won't improve your relationship if his ex wife and children know about your relationship and it could well cause problems that impact negatively. I'd trust that when he's ready he will let them know.

You have my sympathy - similar length of relationship here though they separated almost 5 years ago, their divorce has stalled as he doesn't want to hurt her feelings or something. She's the one who screwed someone else!!!