First conversation with Solc today to get advice before (yet again) telling stbxh that I do actually mean it this time and want a divorce.
Solc advice on contact for children with their father is every other weekend. But - we live in the same small town, and I actually don't think it's in their interests to only see him once a fortnight. I think it's better if he picks them up from school twice a week and brings them home for c. 6pm so they see him more regularly as part of their normal lives AND see him every other weekend. Solc says: yes but, this is the road towards him requesting them overnight for those two days, which (I agree) would be disruptive for them and not in the their best interests.
I get that solc has seen this many times before, and is giving me advice based on experience.... but I don't want to be a knob and actually I do want to facilitate a good relationship for them with him if I can. (Even though he's a narcissistic eejit).
Thoughts and experiences? (BTW, this is in preparation - he hasn't even acknowledged there's a problem yet, let alone agreed to mediation...). TIA.