Please help me to stop reaching out to ex narc

[Rocketman2]

Found H to be having an affair 6 weeks ago. Well, actually it was my kids who found him messaging her. Two teen girls heartbroken. He’s not looked back. Has left them and not seen them. They’ve text him to say how hurt they are and he’s overlooked this and said he’s done nothing wrong!! Hmmm cheating after 26 years is wrong in my eyes.

Despite this, why am I still reaching out to him?! Why, despite everything am I wanting to message him?

He’s still gaslighting me and saying it’s my fault he’s slept with her. My daughters are broken and he’s not even acknowledging this.
he’s still with The Slut as we now know her. Yet he’s constantly saying how lonely he is and how I’ve thrown him out against his will!!

urm….what did he expect?! Me to say ‘no worries love, why don’t you invite her roast on Sunday?!’

I just can’t seem to cut the tie. His behaviour since me throwing him out is worse than the affair itself

Have a Look at chumplady

It's normal to vent your anger and frustrations. What helped me stop was the thought of him puzzled when I didn't message/respond to his messages. Plus eventually I just had nothing left to say that would make any difference. When he messaged me I'd delete his message instantly so I didn't have time to respond. I didn't have his number on my phone. Journalling helps a lot.

When you say she's know as "the slut" I really hope you're not encouraging your teenage daughters to call her that. That's vile language no matter how hurt and upset you all are.

Please don't keep contacting him. He'll probably be enjoying the fact that you're trying to keep lines of communication open. As hard as it is cold turkey is the way

Agree with @icelolly12 when you don't respond it puzzles them! I refuse to engage so much now and that's helped me immensely, you need to step away and focus more on yourself.