A couple of months ago I got on here and asked what people thought about the fact that my BIL had bought me wine and a teddy bear close to Valentine’s Day. He had been complimenting me a bit here and there and I had found myself sort of developing feelings for him. I knew it was wrong because I was married to his brother. I mentioned that I’d kind of wished I’d met BIL first.
Well of course I got A LOT of crap for it on here and I was told to get out of my marriage if I wasn’t happy but to stay away from BIL.
Well fast forward to now.. a couple of weeks ago my stepson (early 20s) and sister in law talked about things that had happened in the past.. things that my husband did involving minors and things that his son was concerned with because he was worried for his sister’s (my daughters) safety and also for the safety of his soon to be baby girl.
There were a handful of things that happened over the years that didn’t sit well with me and I had a major issue with my husband being alone with our daughter. Everything was either always dismissed or there was some cover story that seemed somewhat believable. I was questioning him regularly every time I’d hear something and there was always an explanation.
I thought I was crazy/paranoid.
Well somewhere along the way I realized that he told a lie that I was able to prove was a lie.. and from then on I knew that I could not trust him. He admitted to it when he couldn’t lie about it anymore.
So I always thought about the other things that had come up and whether or not they could have been true.
But all I knew for sure is that I didn’t feel that my daughter was safe with him alone.
So after my sister in law talked to me about everything she knew and everything that came from my stepson she found out that I also had these very serious concerns.
She decided to stay in town to help me get a divorce and protect my daughter.
Once we told most of the family, they were on board with what we planned to do and they were supporting me 100%.
Their father, cousin, brother, nephew was not the great person that he portrayed himself to be and there was proof. Proof that he admitted to within the last week or so.
And let’s not even mention the inappropriate things he did against our marriage because the stuff involving minors is obviously WAY worse and a true mental illness.
He signed the divorce papers which only allows him to see our daughter through supervised visits.
At this point almost his whole family including his sons have disowned him but still treat me and my daughter like we are a part of the family. They have essentially lost a family member.
I’m currently starting therapy for this situation but I’m feeling a sense of safety for my daughter that I’ve NEVER felt before.
Any recommendations about how I can help her move forward from this? Things are going to look way different for her from here on out and she is still very young.