Selling a house

[Poppyann73]

My ex had an affair .. me and my 10yr daughter moved out ,we now rent for her mental health and my own sanity.. I won’t to sell our joint own home ,but ex who lives in it wants to keep it for our daughter .. but our daughter no longer wants it due to bad memories.. but he is refusing to sell .. no married
many advice would be grateful x

Well, I don’t think you should be bringing your 10yo into it. Doesn’t want it due to bad memories? Really? That’s you speaking

ultimately you can’t dictate - if you own the house jointly he’ll need to either buy your share out or you sell and split it but many people retain their former home on separation so this should be fine

Do you own the house jointly?
Do you share custody 50/50?

Own house jointly and on the deeds …
I’m open and honest with my daughter .. she is allowed to speak and no it’s not me speaking for her !!!
Shes heard and seen enough whilst he’s been drunk ,when the 2 of them have been out together and I’ve been at home !! Thank u ..

It’s a joint asset. If one of you wants to sell it then it should be sold. Getting him to agree and cooperate with a sale is another story. If he doesn’t want to then you have to take him to court to compel the sale. But even then he can deter would be buyers and refuse offers. Then the court would have to take over the sale. Buyers will be put off by any shenanigans.

The key decision here is yours. You want to take your money out of the property. What your daughter wants and doesn’t want is irrelevant. He can take his share and invest it for her.

The question for him and you is whether you go about it the hard expensive way or the easy cheap way.

some people can get away with digging their heels in and refusing to sell. You may need to be determined and assertive. Arguing the toss over what your daughter thinks is deflecting from just asserting you want to sell.

Thank u so much this is exactly what I’m going to be doing .. as it’s not my mess .. and he caused this 😊