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Husband want to leave me with 2yo toddler

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Nina2024 · 01/09/2024 18:04

Hi all, please I need your advice. My husband wants to leave me with our 2 year old child. He went to social services to accuse me falsly and report me I abuse him and our child. He used that fact that I am on depression and told them I am on medication. I have never had a depression case until I got married to him and he made me misrable and guide me pressuriesed me to get med from the doctors.
I have never done anuthing to harm him or our child. I work full time and pay our rent and childcare cost. I work hard to provide for our home. But he had been so abusive, and lately he had been recording me and saging I abuse him. He record me everytime I try to talk and he had been threatening me to see what he will do to me. I previously had incident when I was pregnant where I had suicidal thoughts and reported myself to my midwife to seek help, and got referred to social services. I told them I just needed help and would not want to do something like that and they understood me and let me raise my child. I never had any issues since then and he used that against me this time to accuse me to social services. Unless he make it up, I have never abuse him or my child but he have abused me and was afraid to leave him. I am hurt beyond words and he clearly taken advantage of my weakness to report me to social services. Please I am so lost and do not know what to do please help.

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fuffymeloncauli · 01/09/2024 18:23

Social services to not take children away from their parents lightly. Just be honest with social services.

LoremIpsumCici · 01/09/2024 18:35

Call Women’s Aid. They will help you.

Coconutter24 · 01/09/2024 18:45

Tbh let him leave you and see if your depression gets better. After the things he’s said, if he has made it all up why would you want him to stay. Talk with social services and tell them what you have wrote here and hopefully they can help you

Sona93 · 02/09/2024 00:44

You are afraid and it's not your fault.
There is help out there. Speak to people, close friends. Believe in yourself, it's hard but you have to. It's scary but life is beautiful on the other side.
There is help out there but you have to get it for yourself. Read about it, Grey rock method. A lady gave it to me and it helped. Do little things that gives you joy. For me it was to take my kids out and enjoy a coffee. It's going to feel the hardest thing you have ever done but if you have recognised it that's a start already in the right direction. His actions don't define you, you go do what's best for you and your child. He wants to leave you is a good start. My husband told me he was cheating, I knew he did drugs and other things but I still begged him to stay. This was 3 years ago nearly. He left anyway.
I am a stronger woman, I work hard to provide my kids and I am working on my career. I look back and think how did I let that happen to me. But I won't ever let that happen ever again. I do hope you find the strength and believe in yourself and your kid is going to be the reason to put that extra effort. Good luck!

OhcantthInkofaname · 02/09/2024 01:01

Tell him to leave if that's what he wants. If you're already paying the rent w
hat's he there for?

Lavender14 · 02/09/2024 01:04

I agree you need to contact women's aid as he is emotionally abusing you and abusing your position as a mother as well. They will be able to support you and advocate for you.

pikkumyy77 · 02/09/2024 01:06

Tell him to leave. He is more dangerous to you in your life than out of it.

dizzydizzydizzy · 02/09/2024 01:23

Yes, as others have said, contact Women's Aid. They are very helpful.

Meadowfinch · 02/09/2024 01:27

Coconutter24 · 01/09/2024 18:45

Tbh let him leave you and see if your depression gets better. After the things he’s said, if he has made it all up why would you want him to stay. Talk with social services and tell them what you have wrote here and hopefully they can help you

This.

If he wants to leave, let him go. You will be much happier and better off without such a nasty individual, and your child will be better raised without him. Good riddance !

millymollymoomoo · 02/09/2024 14:08

I think op is saying her husband wants to leave and take 2 yo with him hence he is trying to falsely declare her an unfit mother using her depression
against her

op it’s difficult but this is a common tactic which authorities see through, depression and medication to help that will not be used as a reason to pass residency to your husband or used against you

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