Is this delayed grief?

[runrugrun]

I'm at a point where the dust has settled on the divorce and I've left the initial stressful and traumatic stages. This is where life should be rosy as I'm back on my feet again. However, I am now so upset. It feels like I am back in early days and everything hurts so much. This has shocked me. I don't know where it has come from. Is this normal? Is this delayed grief?

Has anything in particular prompted this?

I n some ways divorce is similar to bereavement. It’s a loss and there’s a similar need to adjust to a very different life while processing that loss. I would imagine it’s very normal to have setbacks in that process much the same as a bereaved person might be doing ok and then feel awful again. The thing is, over time, those setbacks are less frequent and less intense.

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way, it’s rotten and probably a bit disappointing too but it will pass. You just have to ride it out ☹️

Thanks. Your kind words have helped.

My divorce has just come through op and it was almost 18 months before I felt any real grief, and then it hit me hard. I think in the early stages there’s so much to be sorted that probably adrenaline carries us through to a great extent. Sorry you’re going through this and I get it 💐

Hello OP

I am feeling very similar to you, I even spoke to my ex about it . I feel so lost now even though we have both moved on I also feel like we haven’t?

have either you or your ex moved on relationship wise?
has anything prompted these feelings?

m I also feel like I have a ‘bump in the road’ when things are going great - it’s almost like the dust settles so you leave ‘fight or flight’ mode and then your brain wants to go over it all to process it.

I don’t have any advice (hoping to hear some from others who have been through it!) but just know it’s not just you x

Thanks for replying. It's so nice to know I'm not alone, though I'm sorry you're going through similar. I think you're both right; for the first time in a long time i am out of flight or fight mode on the divorce and so I can relax and pause.
I guess that's why these feelings are bubbling up. It's just surprising as I'd been doing so well and thought time healed things. I guess I have some more stuff to work through. Divorce is so painful and is the gift that keeps on giving!