Working with ex, but can’t anymore.

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I’ve been separated from my ex husband for over 3 years. I have continued to work in the same place with him. He has an alcohol problem which is why we separated.

Up until now he had never hit me. But last night I went to see his dogs. When we separated he bought 2 dogs. Which I have been walking and feeding.

i said he can’t go on like this and all he cares about his his alcohol, to which I picked up and started pouring down the drain. He rushed at me and punched me in the head. I’m ok, bit sore and shocked but ok.

I don’t want to go near him anymore as now he’s done that I can’t trust him to not do it again. But I’m worried about work, I need to give 6 weeks notice, which I will do and look for another job. But I can’t possibly go back to work with him to work out the notice but I also need an income for that notice period. I’ve never had a sick note so I don’t know how it works, or even if a doctor would give me one to cover my notice period? If I told the doctor what happened? Or do you need to be actually ill to receive one?

You can be ill with stress/anxiety.

I would contact the police. Get a crime reference number.

Speak to HR. Can they let you work from home?

Register it with police
speak to hr

you shouldn’t have to leave

hope you are ok

Hi OP, I suggest contacting the police. Once you a crime reference, speak to HR who may advise you to raise a grievance. While this isn't a workplace matter, this situation may be covered by workplace policies which could potentially mean that he is in breach of his contract. It's not fair that you are the one who has to leave your job and it might be that the situation could resolve itself if he's the one to leave instead.

If you do hand in notice and go off sick, many workplaces won't pay your salary during notice periods so you will be on SSP. If you don't find a job you will have a period where you can't apply for job seekers allowance you made yourself unemployed.

I'm sorry you are going through this. Please take care of yourself. He is your ex husband. You are under no obligation to take care of him or his dogs. You tried to be kind by removing his alcohol but he can also claim he was defending himself as you were destroying his property.

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