Grieving separation/divorce before it’s happened

[mamatothreebunnies]

Has anyone else felt like this? Been so unhappy for so long I feel like I’ve already grieved the whole separation and divorce, cried all the tears and gone through so many emotions of being sad that this is how we ended up all whilst still being married. Now that the marriage is fully breaking down, I feel like I have no tears left but feeling immensely anxious at the prospect of taking care of my kids alone and how I’d financially survive. Such a weird feeling.

Hugs OP.

Having gone through divorce, my emotions have been a rollercoaster at times. Just when I think I’ve settled, I would have a little wobble.

It’s going to be OK- hang in there 💐 The emotions don’t mean you’re doing the wrong thing- you invested your heart and feelings into the marriage and it’s natural that you will sometimes feel sad for the old you who thought that you’d be happy and it would be forever. Give new you some TLC because she deserves it.

Good luck

Yes, by the time I filed I was over it. Shock for exes tho

Yes we came close to splitting several times before the final time and by then I was done and it was a relief. In fact more than that it felt freeing. I was better off financially without him so that also helped. You will get your confidence back and realise you can do it all yourself. Often you realise you already were. I'm several years on and honestly I have a closer relationship with my dc (now young adults) as a single parent than I think I would have had otherwise and they appreciate me more because they have seen how hard I have worked and that I always put them first.