time to pull the trigger

[MsRosewater]

It's time - there's too much resentment and zero affection - it's clear the only reason he's here is DD and lack of financial independence.In other words . as i said, zero affection

So - please advise:
I'm the breadwinner, he's not worked since DD6 ( nearly 7, yr 2 in September ) was 9 months
i'm a relatively high earner c 100k
I have. prenup ( common as married in south africa) so past 10 years of earning are communal
My priority is DD - they are close and i'm concerned about estrangement- he can be a toxic arse

i'm not actually sure what i'm asking- i'm just so so sad
And not because of him- more that it's such a waste of energy and tome and a decade or more of my life just not being enough

Are you in England?
Well he’s going to have to get a job, with a child in school there’s no reason for him to be at home all day, unless there’s a reason you’ve not told us.

thanks- yup in england and no reason for not
working other than never found his direction and then DD said she didn't want him to