Amicable divorce after 20 years

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I don't know what steps to take, what to do next.
Please advise.

Secure your documents and find a good solicitor. It might start amicably, but it's not guaranteed to remain so.

My divorce was definitely amicable and we co-parent just fine now.

I think that a 50/50 financial split helps a lot (although of course not always appropriate) as no one feels hard done by financially.

It's really difficult this bit but I think accepting when the marriage is over and taking action before you've started to hate each other is key, in my case exDH had an affair a few years previous and I took him back but ultimately decided I couldn't stay in a marriage where that had happened but I wasn't angry more sad and accepting, and he was too...so we split. Had we dragged it out for years more trying to save the unsaveable I think my resentment would have grown and grown to a stage where I couldn't have dealt with the divorce amicably.

But in practical terms make sure you understand what assets you both have and their worth, and what your financial options would be on your own- speak to a mortgage advisor find out.