I will try keep to the point.
ExH and I separated about a year ago. Long history of increasingly worse drinking, anger & in general being not a nice person to me or the kids.
He saw them (the kids) every 2nd weekend (his choice). 6 months ago he had a terrible car accident, really hurt himself, still physically recovering. Suspected drink driving, but the police can’t get the evidence to charge him. I supported him to get help, AA, etc. He made all the promises about not drinking anymore, and continued to see the kids as normal.
2 weeks ago he got caught driving over the limit. Immediate ban from driving. Says it was just 1 pint, but won’t tell me what his reading was.
I have now said that he can’t have the kids overnight until I know what his level was. He can do day visits (I’ve already taken them for a visit).
My reasoning is that I just don’t trust him, or his decision making. He has clearly lied for the last 6 months about being sober.
Hi thinks I am being unreasonable - am I?
I know he is their dad. And they worship him. But I can’t trust a word from him, and I’m scared. If the reading was really just over the limit I would believe him a bit more, but I suspect it’s probably far higher.