ex problems

[RubyPeer]

Hi i am new here and navigating the world as a newly single parent to my two children DD (16) and DS (15).

At the start of July i found out that my now ex was having an affair with a work collegue (not for the first time) and he left. We have to children DD has SEN.

In the 7 weeks since he has left he has seen DS twice but not made any effort to see DD at all. On both occasions that he has seen DS he has arranged it with him and i have only known about it when DS has mentioned it and both times it has been things that DD wouldnt enjoy (i think this is planned). My DD texts him and he ignores her but he texts and calls DS.

Last week i took DD and DS on holiday, he texted DS to say have a good time and throughout the week but again not a single message to DD. He called DS the day after we got back but still nothing to DD.

Another issue i am facing is money. He suggested to send me £100 a week every Monday to avoid going through CM but every week he isnt sending it as agreed. In the last 7 weeks ive only had £200. Ive messaged and asked him when he will be sending it but he reads my messages and doesnt reply.

I am unsure what to do or where to turn for advice or support in dealing with the situation at the moment. Im trying to find my feet and adjust as well as be there to help and support my children.

Stop asking him for money and go official. Have you filed for divorce and instructed a solicitor for the financials?

My kids were 18-22 when we split and the divorce came through last month. He's been useless for over a year but is not ready to put more effort in🙄. He's also treating DD differently to the DS x 2. He's been horrible to me too and I am thinking of starting a thread about it.

Go through cma, then you are guaranteed money and can budget accordingly and there is no chasing or arguements

Definitely go through CMS. Don't allow him to have that control over you financially. There's nothing you can do about the way he is treating your children differently, and I feel for you and your daughter. But on the other hand your daughter is better off without him in her life if that's the way he treats her, horrible. I'd suggest counselling for your daughter as it must be difficult for her. And possibly counselling for your son as seeing the way he is being treated to his sibling will be affecting him..