Kids and divorce

[Kristmap]

I have teenagers over age of 13. I'm planning divorce my husband but kids wants to stay with him. Is any lady here who went through similar . I don't know if I will be able to have 50/50 as kids decide.
He has mental health problems and other physical problems and is older. He also twisted kids against me over the years. I'm prepared to walk away but will need to fight in family court.

At 13+ the kids' views will be given a lot of weight in any decisions, but won't be the only factor. And the parent residing with children will generally get a higher proportion of assets if needed to host them, as well as child maintenance from you.

Holding off until the kids are 18+ would make it more likely to be a 50/50 settlement in most cases if finances are a concern.

Hi I do sympathise with you. The same happened to me although my children are 18, 17 and 14. My two eldest girls wanted to stay in the family home and I couldn't afford to buy my ex out and he refused to leave so they have stayed with him. He also twisted everything with them so they felt sorry for him. My youngest son stays with me 50 percent of the time which I love. I have managed to have some sort of relationship with my older girls but it has taken some time. I do get upset about it but given their age they are out with their friends most of the time anyway and don't really spend that much time with him and I'm sure this would still have been the same if I was still living with them. We had mediation to work things out. I hope things work out for you.

Oh gosh. I do feel horrible the worse is I know they won't manage without me as I'm full time cleaner cook and provide holidays etc. He pays for bills I pay food and other things but outcomings are similar. I feel lonely as they spend lots of time with friends and don't need me any more like before. He is not interested to take them out etc but they think the sun shine from his arse. He is not interested to fix relationship even not bothered if I find somebody. I can't afford to buy him out as well . I probably will afford to rent but will struggle on my own. I do feel stuck.