Husbands house is rancid

[Louise0217]

Hi,
my husband and I are separated, my children (17 and 15) live with him.
his house is utterly disgusting and in my opinion unfit for the children to be living there.
he is an aggressive and argumentative man and when I mention it he just screams at me.
he is amazing with the kids in all other ways.
any advice?

Why do they live with him? Could they live with you?

At age 17 and 15 it’s surely your children’s choice to live there, so it must be better than any of their alternatives?

Yes why don’t they live with you OP?

Don't mention it then, let him live in his own filth. When I was 17 I was expected to do most of the housework and cook meals twice a week, do the kids not help out with the housework.

One of the joys of divorcing this man is that his minging house is not your problem 😀 The kids can choose where they live and should be functional household members.

An aggressive male is never 'amazing' in any way.

Really not your problem ! They are old enough to decide for themselves if they care, it's not like they are toddlers ...

How long has the house been like this? You could phone ss but your children are not far off adulthood now, depending on how bad it is they may not really be interested. Have the children complained about it? Do they want to live with you?

What you mean is that you’re trying to find a reason to get the kids from him.

They're old enough to go live where they want, how bad must the idea of living with you be if they prefer to live in his “rancid” house?