Long story as short as I can
had been with my partner 4 years, we have a 2 year old and I am pregnant with our second he recently ended our relationship
i have 4 other children from my first marriage that lasted from when I was a 17 to 33. The 3 youngest live with me (4th is an adult) plus my son from this relationship.
me and my now ex bought a house 2 years ago and recently remortgaged to turn our double garage into a annexe for him as he suffers from mental health
i am 28 weeks pregnant today, and he left me at 14 weeks saying he didn’t love me anymore. Moved in with his mum, and has since removed every single belonging he had in the house and said he didn’t want to do the renovation work.
he has said he will pay half the mortgage for 12 months and has left me £500 Short a month as he no longer pays for half the bills
I have said he can turn the dining room into a room so we can live together for financial reasons he doesn’t want to do this
I don’t know how I will find another home. I work part time, shortly I’ll be on maternity leave and may have to pay a lot in childcare dependent on the government childcare initiatives that may come in. I have 5 children who will live with me, renting a suitable large enough property isn’t going to be easy, I’ll probably never own my own home
I just feel like all the excitement of my baby has been pulled from me, I thought this would be my forever home and I’ll lose it soon, I’m lonely and worried about money
i know people fall out of love and all that and I know logically I will be ok and will get over it all eventually but I wanted a happy family, I feel like I’ve been used and future faked (there is a lot more to the story but I’m trying to keep to facts rather than my feelings) we work together and he’s acting like he has no worries in the world
when he removed all his possessions I vacated the house for the weekend, the only room I locked was my bedroom for privacy. Basically I didn’t know who was going in to help him and I just wanted to be protected. So I put all of his things from my room in another room. He managed to get in and then lock the door after he left (I know because he took a speaker off the wall) i hadn’t acknowledged that as his as we had it in our from for so long. So it was a genuine mistake, he didn’t text or call to ask permission or why I had locked the door which I believe would have been the courteous thing to do. Afterwards I asked for the spare key for the room (it’s an old Victorian lock with a big ass key) as I didn’t know we had one, I’m pregnant and spend weekends alone in the house and I always lock my door. He refused to give it to me. Which I find bizarre. He seems to be angry at me that he can’t just move on with his life
just wanting someone to help me by sharing their positive outcomes
anyone?