DCs going on holiday with their dad without me for the first time- having a wobble.

[Goldenmemories]

I initiated the split, I'm 100 per cent sure that divorce is the only option, we have started mediation, all going well so far. Children have adapted brilliantly and have handled the news of the divorce maturely and sensibly (although they've had their moments of being upset of course). I'm very happy in my own company and have planned lots of things to do to stay busy whilst they are out of the country with their dad for a week. They've already been on holiday with me which was great.

I know it will get easier it just feels really hard today and I miss them already. Any advice please?

The best advice is to know that you’re doing your kids a huge service. Being able to have both parents in their lives without acrimony and picking /choosing is what they deserve.

and while they’re away find things you enjoy - a book/walk/run/gardening/friends , anything to keep your spirits up and indulge yourself

Thanks @millymollymoomoo I'm watching a silly comedy with the cat on my lap and actually it's OK.

@Goldenmemories I hope the rest of your evening was OK. What are you doing to keep busy today?

Pets are such a good distraction. I haven't got any advice as I've not got to this stage yet. It's early days, we're still in the same house, which I hate. Having the dog to walk and get me out helps me shift out of my mood if I'm feeling down, or sometimes I just cry while I walk. So if you like a walk, maybe that's another thing to do.

It's great that you're able to encourage your kids to see their dad and hopefully it will help their relationships with both of you in the long run.

@Questionsandheartache we are in the same house too. Separate bedrooms but yes, it's truly shit, I'm with you there.

I had a nice day out today on my own actually. I thought carefully about where I wanted to go, what I wanted to eat, and enjoyed having my own schedule. The kids have been messaging me saying they're having a good time which is nice.

The house is still clean from when I cleaned it yesterday! Everything I have put in the fridge is still there! Little things 😄

Sounds like you made it a good day. And yes to the small things!

My STBX hardly ever leaves the house, and I'm so looking forward to some space. Eventually!