His birthday, what to do....

[Newbegg]

Hi, any advice,. I'm separated only matter of months and soon to be hubby's birthday. Issue is he hasn't bothered with kids, especially the eldest in weeks, no phonecalls or meeting up. I Took youngest out and he wanted to get a few bits for him, no issues. But youngest hasn't heard from him in a fortnight either. They are 14/17. Do I just leave them to it or I have a feeling their dad won't make contact which may inadvertently upset youngest. Do I nudge them to make contact with their dad or butt out. We don't speak so I can't prompt him and also think, why should I. TIA

I think that you should ask them what to do but it sounds like ex is highly likely not to respond but if the boys want to send a happy birthday text then I would encourage it.

Take The why should I out of it. If you do anything, you’re doing it for your boys.

Remind them on the day: “Boys don’t forget it’s dad’s birthday today. Can you send him a message saying r give him a call later”.